Situationships: You’re Single Until You’re Not

“Oh we together but we’re not together together.” “It’s complicated.” Is it though? Is it really that complicated? Sis, you deserve better and if you’re still tip toeing through the dreaded situationship, you’re single until you and the other person exchange some kind of labels. So many people claim that labels are terrible and that…

Does it Matter Why He Ran?

Like many other cities in the United States, my city is divided. There are two sides to this divide. There are those who are outraged and then there are those who are outraged that people are outraged. In my heart, I know there’s no way to justify the latter. Pittsburgh has a right to be…

Did Someone Tell Me That Science Wasn’t A Girl Thing?

Did someone tell me that math and science were no go zones for girls? Because little me wanted to be a writer, artist, a professional hula hooper, and a million other things. Not one of them involved math or science though and it turns out I’m actually pretty great at both! 74% of young girls…

7 Life Lessons from 2017

If 2017 was a drinking game a lot of us would be beyond drunk. As an optimist I’m obligated to find the bright spots and the moments of celebration from 2017. Last year I made a list of things not to bring into 2017. This year I took a different approach and hope to bring…

Let’s Cancel Cuffing Season

I am in no way proposing such a thing because I’m single. After my last (almost decade long on/off) relationship I’ve been happily dating myself (it’s less stressful by far). Back when that relationship started, unlimited texting was expensive and selfies weren’t even selfies yet. Talking was pretty much the only thing we used phones…

& Too Much

I’m a dark skin woman who loves rap, EDM, pop, and country music. Growing up my peers told me I was too dark and I talk “too white” I actually had someone ask, “Why do you talk like that,” and an older lady told me that she didn’t know dark people resided up north. “Are your…

On: Failure

We speak of failure as if it’s a disease. We need to talk about it though.  Broadcast our failures so we can learn from each other’s mistakes. Instead we prance around only sharing our highlight reels. No bloopers, stirring up envy in our frenemies because we’re afraid to admit we’re flawed and we choose to give ourselves…

28: Bites of Wisdom

      Never apologize for who you are or what you feel especially if you’re okay with it. Don’t break yourself bending over backwards to help everyone. Don’t be afraid to laugh at yourself because life is short and you’re going to need that laugh. With confidence, anything is possible just be certain you…

Is Courting Still a Thing? 

Crazy thing: Before online dating there was blind dating that took effort and a bit of courtship. Does courting still exist?  There’s no way sliding in someone’s inbox and asking them to meet at your house works. Just because communication got easier doesn’t mean women have.  My first boyfriend asked me out in front of…

Flexin My Complexion

FAQs About My Melanin Yes, I have dark skin. No, I’m not from down south. Yes, I tan but it’s more of a summer glow No, I’ve never been to Africa Yes, I’ve always been this dark No, I don’t want to change it Yes, my peers picked on me for it as kids No,…