7 Life Lessons from 2017

If 2017 was a drinking game a lot of us would be beyond drunk. As an optimist I’m obligated to find the bright spots and the moments of celebration from 2017. Last year I made a list of things not to bring into 2017. This year I took a different approach and hope to bring…

Let’s Cancel Cuffing Season

I am in no way proposing such a thing because I’m single. After my last (almost decade long on/off) relationship I’ve been happily dating myself (it’s less stressful by far). Back when that relationship started, unlimited texting was expensive and selfies weren’t even selfies yet. Talking was pretty much the only thing we used phones…

& Too Much

I’m a dark skin woman who loves rap, EDM, pop, and country music. Growing up my peers told me I was too dark and I talk “too white” I actually had someone ask, “Why do you talk like that,” and an older lady told me that she didn’t know dark people resided up north. “Are your…

On: Failure

We speak of failure as if it’s a disease. We need to talk about it though.  Broadcast our failures so we can learn from each other’s mistakes. Instead we prance around only sharing our highlight reels. No bloopers, stirring up envy in our frenemies because we’re afraid to admit we’re flawed and we choose to give ourselves…

28: Bites of Wisdom

      Never apologize for who you are or what you feel especially if you’re okay with it. Don’t break yourself bending over backwards to help everyone. Don’t be afraid to laugh at yourself because life is short and you’re going to need that laugh. With confidence, anything is possible just be certain you…

Is Courting Still a Thing? 

Crazy thing: Before online dating there was blind dating that took effort and a bit of courtship. Does courting still exist?  There’s no way sliding in someone’s inbox and asking them to meet at your house works. Just because communication got easier doesn’t mean women have.  My first boyfriend asked me out in front of…

Flexin My Complexion

FAQs About My Melanin Yes, I have dark skin. No, I’m not from down south. Yes, I tan but it’s more of a summer glow No, I’ve never been to Africa Yes, I’ve always been this dark No, I don’t want to change it Yes, my peers picked on me for it as kids No,…

Generation Swipe – #amwriting

Be interested But not too interested You’ll scare him off. You don’t want him to know you like him but you do Like him Make him wait but not too long He’ll move on. He’ll lose interest and think you’re crazy Be laid back, but don’t cake your face on but don’t be too chill,…

New Orleans: Krewe du Vieux

I think birthdays are literally a celebration of life. An anniversary of birth shouldn’t just be acknowledged but freakin celebrated and after the year with the limo, exploration of Pittsburgh and the high standard of parties my parents set for me the only thing left to do was gather my gals for a quick getaway….

& Crown Skin

You sat in the sun too long.  Taunts from my peers haunted the elementary halls What’s self-esteem? Little ‘ol me wouldn’t have known it break little girls down before they can even know it It seemed like I went through an eternity of teasing before I embraced my skin. “This is it, this is me….

& Seven Daze

Some relationships just end on a cold Monday for no reason at all and some come to a screeching halt because one person took the other for granted and didn’t recognize the other’s worth. Sometimes you’re both silently sitting in the living room on a Saturday blindsided by the notion that it ended eons ago…

& Retail Therapy

“The schedule was wrong. I can’t find you relief for a break so here’s a $20 gift card instead.” “Why must we form one line? He wants to play the lottery and I want to return all my groceries. I’m in a hurry.” Everyone was always in a hurry especially during the holiday season. I’ll…