Assessing Your Peace Portfolio: Be Kind to Unkind People

Before you jump down my throat hear me out. I’ve been scorned way too many times for me to still be a professional optimist and I know this and don’t understand this. It’s not going to make me less chipper though. It will make me wiser. As the only girl amongst my mom’s two boys…

Don’t Let Past Luggage Sink Your Current Relationship

I love the ship metaphor for relationships. If both parties are working together to keep the ship afloat it’s smooth(ish) sailing (you can’t control the weather). If not, you’re going to sink. It may not be as fast as the Titanic but it’s inevitable. Finishing my first poetry book Return to Sender was the closure…

Not to Burst Your Bubble: Your Pandemic Pod is Way Too Big

You know how they say that every time you have sex with a new person you’ve had sex with everyone they’ve had sex with and so on and so forth? Let’s think of our pandemic pods as so. If you’re in America, there’s a high probability that your pod has burst long ago. Someone in…

Empathy, Toxic Ships, and How America Creates its Own Villains

“Sometimes you gotta care for the Cain and sometimes you gotta care for the Abel.” Justdae One morning I woke up and that’s the only line I remembered from a dream and I woke up and jotted it down to dissect later. Growing up my mom didn’t force any kind of religion on us as…

Black Men Deserve All the Love

I don’t know who made the strong black stereotype but it needs to be tossed out the window ASAP. Therapy in the black community in general is frowned upon and it’s taking a toll on the black community. We won’t even start on how systematic racism created mass incarceration in the community but let’s just…

RE: A Letter to 26

Five years ago I wrote a letter to my 31 year old self and today I’m finally looking back at it. Talk about restraint. I’m smiling as I get through it because my 2015 problems definitely weren’t anything and they weren’t ready for 2020 social distancing. Adulthood is still one big panic after another. Not…

Why Are We Still Single?

Cuffing season is coming to a close and a lot of us haven’t even been drafted. We’re not even on the practice team! Recently I sat reflecting why are so many amazing millennials single? I’ve met some of these amazing people some are single by choice and others are rather interesting.  I’m in no way…

Salary vs Sanity: What’s More Expensive?

Secure the bag. Secure the bag. Shout out to whomever came up with that motivational attitude. Making sure your coins are in order is cool but there will come a time in corporate America where you start to question, “is this check worth my peace?” Let me very much so say, no. The older I…

Existential Crisis: Falling Out of Love is Crucial

“No, we can’t be friends because you were a terrible boyfriend. What would make me think you would be an awesome friend?” – Me (2016) People can be friends with their exes if said person deserves it. The older I get the more I realize that not everyone deserves my friendship because frankly, I’m a…

7 Life Lessons from 2017

If 2017 was a drinking game a lot of us would be beyond drunk. As an optimist I’m obligated to find the bright spots and the moments of celebration from 2017. Last year I made a list of things not to bring into 2017. This year I took a different approach and hope to bring…